{"id":2866,"date":"2014-01-03T10:31:57","date_gmt":"2014-01-03T09:31:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gentlemannaguiden.com\/?p=2866"},"modified":"2014-01-03T10:31:57","modified_gmt":"2014-01-03T09:31:57","slug":"vass-din-diplomatiska-formaga","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gentlemannaguiden.com\/vass-din-diplomatiska-formaga\/","title":{"rendered":"V\u00e4ss din diplomatiska f\u00f6rm\u00e5ga"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>N\u00e4r man kollar runt i olika kommentatorsf\u00e4lt p\u00e5 t.ex. aftonbladet och motsvarande st\u00f6rre tidningar p\u00e5 n\u00e4tet sl\u00e5r det mig; avsaknaden av diplomati och taktfullhet \u00e4r r\u00e4tt utbredd i dagens samh\u00e4lle. Jag blir ofta f\u00f6rv\u00e5nad \u00f6ver hur m\u00e5nga som orkar br\u00e5ka om sm\u00e5saker med h\u00e4nvisning till att ens egna \u00e5sikt \u00e4r den enda r\u00e4tta.<\/p>\n<p>Det f\u00e5r mig att t\u00e4nka p\u00e5 tv\u00e5 av de enklaste reglerna f\u00f6r gentlemannam\u00e4ssigt beteende som \u00e4ven finns beskrivna i boken <a href=\"http:\/\/www.adlibris.com\/se\/bok\/as-a-gentleman-would-say-9781401604691\" target=\"_blank\">As a Gentleman would say<\/a> av John Bridges och Bryan Curtis, n\u00e4mligen:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>A gentleman does not take part in major arguments over minor issues.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>och<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Even in the most heated discussion, a gentleman avoids raising his voice. He does not shout others down.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Jag tycker sj\u00e4lv att just dessa tv\u00e5 regler tar en r\u00e4tt l\u00e5ngt d\u00e5 det kommer till det som kallas &#8221;bondf\u00f6rnuft&#8221; i de flesta diskussioner. N\u00e4r man riktigt t\u00e4nker efter \u00e4r det s\u00e4llan den som med h\u00f6g r\u00f6st h\u00e4vdar sin best\u00e4mda \u00e5sikt som vinner sympati hos \u00e5h\u00f6rarna. Ist\u00e4llet \u00e4r det ofta den som med intresse f\u00f6rm\u00e5r l\u00e4gga sig in i den andras situation och d\u00e4refter med lugn r\u00f6st delger sin egen \u00e5sikt som anses som en klok, vis och sympatisk man. F\u00f6rm\u00e5gan av lyssna och visa respekt f\u00f6r andras \u00e5sikt har blivit viktigare \u00e4n n\u00e5gonsin tidigare.<\/p>\n<p>Det samma g\u00e4ller \u00e4ven r\u00e4tt l\u00e5ngt diskussioner p\u00e5 n\u00e4tforum, som i kommentatorsf\u00e4lt och liknande. De flesta av oss har med stor sannolikhet best\u00e4mda \u00e5sikter om det mesta h\u00e4r i v\u00e4rlden. Att med stor best\u00e4mdhet h\u00e4vda att ens egna \u00e5sikt \u00e4r den enda r\u00e4tta \u00e4r ett lika stort &#8221;etikettbrott&#8221; p\u00e5 n\u00e4tet som i det \u00e4r i det verkliga livet, ansikte mot ansikte.<\/p>\n<p>Om du k\u00e4nner p\u00e5 dig att du h\u00f6r till denna kategori av m\u00e4nniskor som k\u00e4nner ett behov av att hela tiden ha sista ordet och g\u00e4rna h\u00f6gljutt avbryter andra mitt i deras meningar, f\u00f6rs\u00f6k att t\u00e4nka en extra g\u00e5ng innan du uttrycker din \u00e5sikt. Att lyssna och f\u00e5 den andra personen att k\u00e4nna sig v\u00e4rdefull kommer att g\u00f6ra att du k\u00e4nner att du har kontroll \u00f6ver dig sj\u00e4lv och dina k\u00e4nslor. 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